The assembly believed them, because they were elders of the people and judges; and they condemned her to death. – Daniel 13:41
Earlier in the story of Susanna, the elders conspired together to gang rape her. They sneaked into her garden and threatened her. If she didn’t submit to them, they would say that she was fooling around with a young man. “Who will the people believe?” they might have asked. “The respected elders and judges of the community, or a worthless woman?”
Indeed, when they tell the story of what didn’t happen, the people believe them, even though such things were unheard of with Susanna. These men were in positions of authority. They were civil as well as religious leaders.
One injustice begats another. How often in your acting out have you also lied and caused calamity to come upon the innocent? Has your acting out damaged relationships with your spouse? Your parents, brothers, sisters, or extended family? What about your children? Very likely, some of your relationships have been harmed.
Many sex addicts are tempted to immediately go into Step Nine, making amends. That is natural. When we realize that we’ve done wrong, if we are truly sorry, then we should want to make amends. That’s an important part of penance in the sacrament of confession, too.
However, we must not rush into our amends. This can make problems worse. Remember, we may be ready for amends, but the people we hurt may not be ready. A sponsor can help you know when to make amends, if ever. Sometimes amends must be spiritual only.
Small amends can be made at any time. If you are on decent terms with another person, start doing small things for them. They don’t need to know why. Just be kind, courteous, and helpful. If you are not on good terms with someone, make time to pray for that person. Have a Mass offered for them. I have had Masses offered for people that I will never be able to make amends for, because they are dead, or doing so will cause more problems than it’ll solve.
Find a sponsor, work with your sponsor, and go to confession!